Let me help you out OP we are going to remix this
Also apologies for this being so binary, this basically addresses issues that white cis women face without getting into the many additional challenges faced by trans* women and women of color. The…
I have a serious problem with this. I’m a feminist. I’m incredibly active in women’s rights issues including, but not limited to, our legal rights to equal pay, our own health decisions, and protection for victims of domestic violence. I’m a fucking feminist.
And you are -exactly- what makes feminists like me hate calling ourselves feminists anymore. You are the kind of “feminist” who isn’t looking for equality. You aren’t looking for equal rights. All the fighting for our rights to vote, to use birth control, to own property. None of that matters to you. What you are looking for is some 1920 reverse. Where men sit at home in ankle length dresses and don’t get to make any decisions for themselves.
Being feminist isn’t about taking rights away from men. Its about gaining the same rights for women. I want equal pay, rights to work the type of career I want, to control my reproductive choices, and to be accepted in my sexual choices whether I want to sleep one 1 man, 100 men, no men, or whatever variety and quantity of women or altergender people I feel like sleeping with. I want the media to stop portraying women as 100 pound sex objects. And you know what? I want men to have those rights too. I want men to be able to be stay at home dads without the stigma that they should be out working cause thats what men do. I want men to have the right to be a baker or a construction worker, their choice. I want men to be able to dress how they want, love who they want, and make choices for themselves. I want the media to stop portraying men as stupid brutes just because they are men.
Being a human is hard. Everyone has expectations put on them. There is absolutely NO “just be yourself” in our society. None. The OP guy. He didn’t say a FUCKING THING about what is expected of women in his post. Not a damn thing. What he said was “these are things that are expected of men and it isn’t okay to put expectations on people that might not line up with who they are or who they want to be.” And you know what? Thats what you said too. Except he didn’t make it about telling off the opposite gender. He made it EXCLUSIVELY about what men go through. And he’s right. There wasn’t a single thing in his post that isn’t traditionally expected of men. So yeah, being a white (except he isn’t white and looking at his profile pic will tell you that) cis male? That can be hard. Being a white cis female? That can be hard too. A black/hispanic/asian genderqueer/transgendered homosexual/bisexual/asexual man/woman? Thats fucking hard too. Being human is hard. Until EVERYONE is allowed to be themselves it will be. And women like you are just making it that much harder to get to that point.
That sexist pig who thinks its okay for women to get raped if she wears short skirts and that she needs to be back in the kitchen? You are that guy, in a female body. And everything those sorts of pig men do to hinder women’s rights, you do just as much to harm women’s rights and human rights all together.
So next time you throw a fit about men saying women don’t have it hard. Make sure they actually say it. Because if you want to tell someone what -they- suffer through, when you have no idea, you are a bigot. Period.
And because it apparently matters what I am. I’m a white (gasp) bi-gendered (born with female parts) pansexual polyamourous mother. And I care about -equality-.