^ Truth. Doms, obviously, should therefore be willing to be more attentive and understanding than the average person.
a submissive ranting or upset about a d-type that has no concerns beyond having someone to boss around, I get angry. What makes these people think they have a right, at all, to take someone else’s life in their hands and misuse it like that? D/s relationships have this deep bond and trust that is beyond what most people can even imagine in relationships. These jerks are denying a submissive the chance to have that bond.
You want someone to clean your house? Hire a maid. Someone to make your sandwiches? Hire a cook. Someone to fuck? Prostitute.
Owning a slave means having the responsibility to care for them completely, to take care of their emotional needs. Unless your relationship is negotiated otherwise.
So if you ignore your subs emotional needs, if you expect everything and never give anything, if you lie or you are dishonest with your sub or if you do things that hurt them callously and without thought, you aren’t a dom. You are an asshole.
I should not have to see subs upset over assholes.
Someone liked this a moment ago and it made me feel obligated to repost it.
John Norman, Savages of Gor, page 174 (via wife-of-dreams)
^ And only in that kind of slavery can a woman be truly slave. That, to me, is the difference between a woman who is physically submissive to a man (there is no problem with that if that is what you want, just pointing out a difference), and a woman who is the total slave of a man.
There are several great quotes about how Gorean men take the time to know their slaves in a way most many of earth never bother to know a woman that go along with this idea.
She is so sweet the way she says “Yes Sir.” So intoxicating the way she moans in between gasps of air. She is my pet and I her master.
She obeys my every command. I respect her boundaries. For the truth of the matter is that the roughness, the demands, and complete control I have over her body, her movements, and her words are not why I have her call me master. It is because I am the master of HER desires and pleasure not my own. The better she feels, the more rough she likes it, the more she begs…. that is what gives me pleasure. It’s not that I control her, but that she wants me to control her. That bond is what leads to such incredible sexual levels, that even my commanding her over the phone to her own orgasm is earth shattering.
This is lovely. This is a wonderful way of expressing the desires of the Master, the control he has over his slave.